Sunday, August 03, 2008
Uncetainties of the Heart
Postscript: She mentioned that the sponsors of the Academic Decathlon at her children's school like B and C students instead of the A students because the former students think faster on their feet. Really? That doesn't quite gibe with what the Wikipedia entry says. My high school chemistry teacher says that the chemistry curriculum has been watered down since I was in school. I hope the same isn't true for Acadeca.
Post-postscript: Who am I kidding? Myself of course. She sized me up in the first 30 seconds and came to a conclusion. Anything after that is a rationalization. So, for now I'll be a skeptic and assume that she's really not interested in romance until she indicates otherwise.
She emailed me at 11:38 PM and at least was honest and upfront. "I do not feel the connection that I am looking for in a gentleman." So, I didn't pass whatever criteria she has. However, I shouldn't take it personally, although that is easier said than done. Relief mingled with disappointment...and Life goes on.
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I think online dating is a good way to go.
In 2002 I divorced after 17 years of marriage. I quickly started using rsvp.com and match.com to contact woman of similar age (I was 42 back then) and interests.
People say "isn't online a shot in the dark?"
Not if you chat extensively by email first.
And if things progress chat on the phone.
The chatting is fun in itself.
If phone conversation flows easily and is prolonged (say 30 minutes)thats a good indicator whether a date (brunch/lunch) is worthwhile.
Thats how I met my present wife Pam.
Yes, that's generally how I work it. Online dating depends upon the site though. Some sites have gone downhill lately. They are used by spammers and con artists looking to fleece people. I didn't have much luck with match.com several years ago. Maybe it's gotten better of late.
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