Tuesday, August 01, 2006
Which is the Better Path of Growth
Which is the better choice - to avoid working with a person who unknowingly irritates you or to work with that person so that you can find out why he or she irritates you so that you can correct your behavior?
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Of course, you should find out why some people irritate you.
But the best thing is to get acquianted with the irritation by feeling it and not to try to rationalize it. Find out if you can live with it.
If you can't, then there is the chance that you are not tough enough. Just an idea.
But the best thing is to get acquianted with the irritation by feeling it and not to try to rationalize it. Find out if you can live with it.
If you can't, then there is the chance that you are not tough enough. Just an idea.
What I really mean is that you think this person is very important and you can't ignore him. Why should his words or actions matter to you? How important is he?
Well, I don't mean you should be indifferent to others. I mean you shouldn't let people irritate, intimidate, manipulate, exploit or control you.
If you feel irritated inspite of being a nice guy, it means this person is hard to live or work with. He could be very arrogant, unfriendly, ambitious, and mean.
If you feel irritated inspite of being a nice guy, it means this person is hard to live or work with. He could be very arrogant, unfriendly, ambitious, and mean.
It doesn't have to be your fault everytime, even if you were merely an illusion.
If you didn't exist at all, he'd probably be happier.
The point is, real or not real, you should find the middle way, where there is cooperation instead of domination or competition.
Ignoring somebody is sometimes useful, in order to be able to compose yourself, and not get too involved and carried away by irritation or anger. First, make the emotion bearable so it won't cloud your judgement.
Some people are very dominant or manipulative. Pretending to be unaffected or unruffled tends to fool them into thinking you are not easy prey.
The thing about people who think they have authority or lots of it is they are afraid of authority themselves. They wouldn't want to be accused of anything. (Just writing out of experience.)
If you didn't exist at all, he'd probably be happier.
The point is, real or not real, you should find the middle way, where there is cooperation instead of domination or competition.
Ignoring somebody is sometimes useful, in order to be able to compose yourself, and not get too involved and carried away by irritation or anger. First, make the emotion bearable so it won't cloud your judgement.
Some people are very dominant or manipulative. Pretending to be unaffected or unruffled tends to fool them into thinking you are not easy prey.
The thing about people who think they have authority or lots of it is they are afraid of authority themselves. They wouldn't want to be accused of anything. (Just writing out of experience.)
anonymous,
Everybody knows that already. But why do people still get irritated? It means you can't simply ignore it. To ignore yourself, you must ignore the other person as well. If you don't mean nothing, he doesn't mean nothing.
I prefer cooperation to ignorance.
Everybody knows that already. But why do people still get irritated? It means you can't simply ignore it. To ignore yourself, you must ignore the other person as well. If you don't mean nothing, he doesn't mean nothing.
I prefer cooperation to ignorance.
Thanks for all your comments. I know that it is an aspect of my mind that is irritated. I have decided to work with this person for two reasons, to grow as a person by learning about my flaws and to have the weekends off. This person is a coworker. Thanks again.
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